Tips For Dating Cis Singles
More cis people (at least those who identify as such), are coming out of the closet and dating transgendered (or “cis” as someone who has a penis that points towards a certain gender). The transformation of “gay” into “transgendered” is nothing new. Cis people have been attracted to each other since the beginning of time; in fact, the Bible features stories of people going out of their way to impersonate people of the opposite sex because of their curiosity about them. The idea of a “cis person” used to be a shock to many. Today, however, acceptance is much more common.
If you’re a cis person who is dating a transgendered individual, there are a few things you can do to ensure that your relationship will be an authentic one and not just another sexual encounter in the woods. While many cis people assume that being attracted to the “opposite sex” automatically makes them gay, that’s not always the case. Sometimes people get a little confused between being attracted to the same sex on a conscious level and being attracted to someone physically because they share a certain physical trait.
The first thing you need to figure out, then, is whether or not the transgendered individual you are dating has a tendency to dress in a way that will tend to make him or her more attractive to the opposite sex. Some cis people are accustomed to wearing clothes and makeup that make them seem like a woman, but their bodies are still likely to be strikingly similar to a man. cis women can sometimes find it difficult to move with physicality and develop muscle tone. This is why clothing is sometimes a problem, especially for women who don’t want their bodies minimized in any way. If the cis person with whom you are dating frequently wears Cologne or a particular style of jeans, ask yourself whether this can translate to a more attractive person.
This doesn’t mean, however, that you should eliminate clothing altogether from your dating portfolio. If the cis person with whom you are dating is comfortable with the idea of being seen wearing a skirt instead of a dress, then great. You should encourage this. Also, if your cis dating partner likes to wear tights and stockings, then these things are perfectly acceptable for him or her. Remember, the idea is to strike a balance between appearance and personality in order to attract as many people as possible.
Another thing you should keep in mind is that just because the cis person you are dating has an interest in gender diversity does not mean that he or she necessarily acts this way. Sometimes people get caught up in cisnormativity and assume that every cis person is interested in being gay or a transperson. This is not the case at all. Even cis women can have same-sex sexual desires and be bisexual or even straight. You should understand this and be comfortable with it if it means that you can date a cis person.
Finally, understand that there are plenty of benefits to dating someone who is of a different gender or sex. There is nothing wrong with wanting to date someone who is a man or a woman and wants to have children. This can be a great benefit to your relationship because you will have an opportunity to get to know each other in a whole new way. Additionally, if you do not happen to know anyone who is a certain gender, you will be able to find love in various forms. No matter what your reason is for wanting to date a cis person, it can be a very enriching experience.